Peace and War Begin in Bed

Do you sometimes feel your body as the enemy?
... if it were just a little thinner, rounder, younger, older, sexier, healthier... then I would be a happy person.
Do you sometimes feel your lover as the enemy?
... if she/he would just wash the dishes more often, stay home when I want, understand me better, listen better... AGREE with me... then I could love her/him more.
Do you sometimes feel sex as the enemy?
... if sex were just not so boring, complicated, frightening, exciting, addictive... then I could celebrate it.
Do you sometimes feel your own self as the enemy?
... if ... then...
Do you sometimes feel your body, your lover, your sex, your own self as a friend?

If you can relate to any of the above, you are not alone. Most of us are challenged sometimes by voices inside that fight with us, put us down, make us feel inadequate. The question is, what do we do with these conflicts? Act them out on others, ourselves? Try to understand them? Get therapy? Have more sex? Move those feelings with running, singing, dancing, meditation? Pretend they’re not there? Or stop struggling and be with the discomfort?

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As I sat down to write for this site, American and British troops marched into Bagdad, Iraq. Like many with me, I shudder to think about the violence in so many places in this world, in countries far away and in cities nearby. Yet, I’m extremely privileged that bombs fall far away and shooting in my neighborhood is rare. I can turn off the radio and go on with my life. However, I am part of the field of peace and war too. What I can do? I can notice my own warfare with my body, loved ones, sex, self.
Peace and War Begin in Bed.

...Our ability to deal with conflict on a larger scale improves as we successfully resolve conflict with our own bodies, loved ones, sex and ourselves.

...Working on the conflicts inside and nearby us affects the world as a whole.

...Sexual Energy can be used to effect the cosmic field. (click on Sex-Magic).