and P-spot Massage
This page offers a detailed guideline for exploration and stimulation of he G-spot, and refers to the P-spot, the prostate gland.
Xtasia often emphasizes similarities in the female and male reproductive system - genitals - where Western culture emphasizes differences. Xtasia has the word Zumah (jump station) for both the G-spot and the P-spot; they both make and store ejaculatory fluid.
For differences between G- and P-spot, see the end of this page.
Obviously I can only give you a general description. You
will follow the
needs and wants of your own body when you
make your own journey.
You need to know two foreign words: Obolay and Batague.
"Obolay” is, to say it simply, the Receiver, the Vessel;
“Batague” is the Do-er, the Tracker.
Preparation before penetration
First of all, have clean hands and nails that can’t
Then: Caution!!! It is no fun for a zumah to be stimulated
when there is no arousal!
Tune-in and make arousal in any way you wish: kissing, touching,
rubbing, wrestling, dancing, telling stories, showing off,
breathing, licking and so forth.
Some women will only want their zumah played with
after they’re fully aroused and had a clitoral orgasm.
In this event I call the female ‘Obolay,’ as
she is the one to receive. Batague is the tracker and can
obviously be of any gender.
while your Obolay is laying on her back... turn your hand
palm up before sending your fingers inside.
Obolay, relax! If relaxation is difficult for you,
breathe into your belly, slowly, with ease.
Batague, at first you’re not looking for ‘the
spot,’ but for stimulation of the entire area where
zumah resides. Relax your finger(s) as much as you can.
Don’t hold them stiff - it makes them feel
hard and painful. When you are inside, you stay inside.
For now, take yourself far away from the urge to thrust
in and out.
All action is happening inside.
Using two or more fingers is usually easier than one.
Once inside, curl your fingers upward, and bring them a
little back, towards your wrist. Your fingers touch ‘the
ceiling’ of her cave (against her belly)...
Now move your fingers back and forth... Curling and un-curling...
as if the ceiling were ice cream and your fingers were licking...
doing this, you stimulate the sponge (urethral sponge) which
will swell up with blood... back and forth your fingers
They make circles...
They roam like a mountain lion sniffing for food... just
sniffing... no grabbing...
You press here... You press there... You press and release...
You make circles... give pressure...
Your fingers explore to the left... above... to the right...
Listen and respond to the cues you’re getting... her
eyes... breathing... sounds... movement... words... where
she wants more... where she wants to be left alone.
Slow motions... slow motions... all your attention is in
Fast motions... fast motions... strong... all attention
is in your fingers...
Spider-fingers... if you have more than one finger inside,
move your fingers one at a time in a fluid motion...
By alternating the strokes of your inside massage, you give
Obolay’s holy well the opportunity to widen. You’re
waking up the tissues.
Batague, you’re in no hurry at all.
When arousal starts rising higher... tissues become fuller
Finally you can go look for zumah. If her body
does not give the signs of swelling tissue or arousal, ask
Obolay if her cunt (holy well) wishes you to stay in or
then there is Zumah
Batague, sit between Obolay’s open legs. If you’re
tall, you might lie close to her, holding her, while you
have your fingers inside.
you stayed inside with your hand, to find zumah,
you may have to move your entire hand a little bit back
Then bring your curved fingers up and back, towards
Move slow and with attention.
You may find tissue that feels somewhat different, maybe
a little ‘ribbed.’ But every woman is different,
so don’t let yourself be deceived if that’s
not very clear.
Here, ask for help. Obolay, your tour-guide, needs to tell
you what’s happening for her. For example: ‘Mmm,
I like that’...’That feels a little strong’...
‘I’m not sure, can you go a little to the left?’...
‘Yes! That’s it! More!’... ‘I feel
dizzy’... ‘I want you to come out now... ‘This
makes me want to cry... ‘Au! That’s sharp!’...
‘Mmm, I feel like you open me up so wide’...
‘Oh yes! Don’t stop!’
Zumah... when pressed against ... makes a sensation,
from slight to distinct in Obolay, different from other
Batague, press up against her belly and release... on the
spot you both think zumah might be... press and
release... press and release... press and release... You
are either right on it... very nearby... or on your way
to finding it.
Batague, swipe your fingers from left to right and back...
right behind her pubic bone... as if they were a set of
Make circles on that spot...
Obolay, you may feel you have to pee real bad... go to the
bathroom to see if that’s so...
come back... and spread your legs again... because... most
likely the nectar of your wondrous cave is pressing to come
out and release.
Now, both pay very close attention: is the pressure a pain
indicating a gate, or a scream wanting to get out, or a
pleasure asking for more?
Obolay, this famous, sought for spot, is the embodied manifestation
of your emotional world, more than any other part in your
...You may want to cry, even when you have no apparent reason,
...You may want to scream, even when usually you’re
an introverted person,
...You may want to laugh, even when nothing is funny,
...You may feel angry or scared, even when you’re
in the arms of the most loving lover.
Batague, when her emotions come up and want to spill...
... just stay with her ... stay with her ... stay with
Before you continue, take pauses to let emotions come and
go like waves come and go.
To both of you, don’t try to understand... don’t
try to fix anything. You have now entered the magic
land of Mystery, where emotions flow like rivers bringing
life to the soil.
Obolay, when the sensation starts to feel like hurt or discomfort,
tell Batague to hold still... because a gate is
asking for attention.
Batague, after you’ve held still... You may want to
explore other places in her holy well again... left... right...
down... to the back....
sliding... pressing... circling... spider fingers...
Obolay, pay close attention and lead Batague, because s/he
cannot know what you feel and needs your guidance.
If the stimulation becomes too scary or just too much for
you... stop!... allow this to be the right
amount of exploration for this day.
If you are finished for now, Batague, ask what Obolay needs
and provide that for her.
Zumah wants more
Obolay, it might also be that you need more touch all over
inside and want Batague to find your zumah again
it might be that... zumah wants more...
Maybe more and faster...
Maybe more and stronger...
Maybe more and harder...
Maybe more and...
She may call those fingers... come take me... come release
me... come get me...
Batague, without becoming a bulldozer... go strong... hard...
fast... press and release as if you were a vibrator...
strong... hard... fast...
And slow down again...
And hold still again...
And move again when she’s ready...
You may want to ‘scrape’ (no nails!) and press
that ceiling, with a sudden tuck outwards...
Obolay, you may want to press your belly against those fucking
You may want to press your fingers from the outside against
those fucking fingers...
You may want to squat or find a different position to fuck
those fucking fingers...
At the highest of heat, passion becomes a prayer...
When you’re about to let yourself fall into the abyss
of passion, passion is a prayer...
Go, Obolay, go...
And when your nectar comes... let it stream... give it to
the earth from where it came... or to Batague’s belly
Or... on the towel you had handy before you began.
when the nectar does not come, this too is a gift. For there
is a truth to tell, whether it is, ‘I’m keeping
myself for me’, or, ‘I’m riding quietly’,
or, ‘I’m shooting for the stars.’
Similarities and differences of G-spot and Prostate Gland
Massage of the G-spot and the P-spot can be done in a similar
The differences are, in general: