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G-spot and P-spot Massage

This page offers a detailed guideline for exploration and stimulation of he G-spot, and refers to the P-spot, the prostate gland.

Xtasia often emphasizes similarities in the female and male reproductive system - genitals - where Western culture emphasizes differences. Xtasia has the word Zumah (jump station) for both the G-spot and the P-spot; they both make and store ejaculatory fluid.

For differences between G- and P-spot, see the end of this page.

 

Zumah-Massage

Obviously I can only give you a general description. You will follow the

needs and wants of your own body when you make your own journey.
You need to know two foreign words: Obolay and Batague.

"Obolay” is, to say it simply, the Receiver, the Vessel;

“Batague” is the Do-er, the Tracker.

Preparation before penetration
First of all, have clean hands and nails that can’t do harm.
Then: Caution!!! It is no fun for a zumah to be stimulated when there is no arousal!
Tune-in and make arousal in any way you wish: kissing, touching, rubbing, wrestling, dancing, telling stories, showing off, breathing, licking and so forth.
Some women will only want their zumah played with after they’re fully aroused and had a clitoral orgasm.

Preparation through penetration
In this event I call the female ‘Obolay,’ as she is the one to receive. Batague is the tracker and can obviously be of any gender.

Batague, while your Obolay is laying on her back... turn your hand palm up before sending your fingers inside.
Obolay, relax! If relaxation is difficult for you, breathe into your belly, slowly, with ease.
Batague, at first you’re not looking for ‘the spot,’ but for stimulation of the entire area where zumah resides. Relax your finger(s) as much as you can. Don’t hold them stiff - it makes them feel hard and painful. When you are inside, you stay inside. For now, take yourself far away from the urge to thrust in and out.
All action is happening inside.
Using two or more fingers is usually easier than one.
Once inside, curl your fingers upward, and bring them a little back, towards your wrist. Your fingers touch ‘the ceiling’ of her cave (against her belly)...
Now move your fingers back and forth... Curling and un-curling... as if the ceiling were ice cream and your fingers were licking... doing this, you stimulate the sponge (urethral sponge) which will swell up with blood... back and forth your fingers go...
They make circles...
They roam like a mountain lion sniffing for food... just sniffing... no grabbing...
You press here... You press there... You press and release... You make circles... give pressure...
Your fingers explore to the left... above... to the right... below...
Listen and respond to the cues you’re getting... her eyes... breathing... sounds... movement... words... where she wants more... where she wants to be left alone.
Slow motions... slow motions... all your attention is in your fingers...
Fast motions... fast motions... strong... all attention is in your fingers...
Spider-fingers... if you have more than one finger inside, move your fingers one at a time in a fluid motion...
By alternating the strokes of your inside massage, you give Obolay’s holy well the opportunity to widen. You’re waking up the tissues.
Batague, you’re in no hurry at all.

When arousal starts rising higher... tissues become fuller and fuller...

Finally you can go look for zumah. If her body does not give the signs of swelling tissue or arousal, ask Obolay if her cunt (holy well) wishes you to stay in or go out.

And then there is Zumah
Batague, sit between Obolay’s open legs. If you’re tall, you might lie close to her, holding her, while you have your fingers inside.

If you stayed inside with your hand, to find zumah, you may have to move your entire hand a little bit back towards you.
Then bring your curved fingers up and back, towards yourself.
Move slow and with attention.
You may find tissue that feels somewhat different, maybe a little ‘ribbed.’ But every woman is different, so don’t let yourself be deceived if that’s not very clear.
Here, ask for help. Obolay, your tour-guide, needs to tell you what’s happening for her. For example: ‘Mmm, I like that’...’That feels a little strong’... ‘I’m not sure, can you go a little to the left?’... ‘Yes! That’s it! More!’... ‘I feel dizzy’... ‘I want you to come out now... ‘This makes me want to cry... ‘Au! That’s sharp!’... ‘Mmm, I feel like you open me up so wide’... ‘Oh yes! Don’t stop!’
Zumah... when pressed against ... makes a sensation, from slight to distinct in Obolay, different from other places.
Batague, press up against her belly and release... on the spot you both think zumah might be... press and release... press and release... press and release... You are either right on it... very nearby... or on your way to finding it.
Batague, swipe your fingers from left to right and back... right behind her pubic bone... as if they were a set of windshield wipers...
Make circles on that spot...
Obolay, you may feel you have to pee real bad... go to the bathroom to see if that’s so...
come back... and spread your legs again... because... most likely the nectar of your wondrous cave is pressing to come out and release.

An emotional release
Now, both pay very close attention: is the pressure a pain indicating a gate, or a scream wanting to get out, or a pleasure asking for more?
Obolay, this famous, sought for spot, is the embodied manifestation of your emotional world, more than any other part in your entire body...
...You may want to cry, even when you have no apparent reason,
...You may want to scream, even when usually you’re an introverted person,
...You may want to laugh, even when nothing is funny,
...You may feel angry or scared, even when you’re in the arms of the most loving lover.
Batague, when her emotions come up and want to spill...
... just stay with her ... stay with her ... stay with her...
Before you continue, take pauses to let emotions come and go like waves come and go
.
To both of you, don’t try to understand... don’t try to fix anything. You have now entered the magic land of Mystery, where emotions flow like rivers bringing life to the soil.

Obolay, when the sensation starts to feel like hurt or discomfort, tell Batague to hold still... because a gate is asking for attention.
Batague, after you’ve held still... You may want to explore other places in her holy well again... left... right... down... to the back....
sliding... pressing... circling... spider fingers...
Obolay, pay close attention and lead Batague, because s/he cannot know what you feel and needs your guidance.
If the stimulation becomes too scary or just too much for you... stop!... allow this to be the right amount of exploration for this day.
If you are finished for now, Batague, ask what Obolay needs and provide that for her.

When Zumah wants more
Obolay, it might also be that you need more touch all over inside and want Batague to find your zumah again later.

And it might be that... zumah wants more...
Maybe more and faster...
Maybe more and stronger...
Maybe more and harder...
Maybe more and...
She may call those fingers... come take me... come release me... come get me...
Batague, without becoming a bulldozer... go strong... hard... fast... press and release as if you were a vibrator...
strong... hard... fast...
And slow down again...
And hold still again...
And move again when she’s ready...
You may want to ‘scrape’ (no nails!) and press that ceiling, with a sudden tuck outwards...
Obolay, you may want to press your belly against those fucking fingers...
You may want to press your fingers from the outside against those fucking fingers...
You may want to squat or find a different position to fuck those fucking fingers...
At the highest of heat, passion becomes a prayer...
When you’re about to let yourself fall into the abyss of passion, passion is a prayer...
Go, Obolay, go...
And when your nectar comes... let it stream... give it to the earth from where it came... or to Batague’s belly and legs...
Or... on the towel you had handy before you began.

And when the nectar does not come, this too is a gift. For there is a truth to tell, whether it is, ‘I’m keeping myself for me’, or, ‘I’m riding quietly’, or, ‘I’m shooting for the stars.’

 

Some Similarities and differences of G-spot and Prostate Gland

Massage of the G-spot and the P-spot can be done in a similar way.
The differences are, in general:

  • the receiver of an anal massage, male or female, might want to do an anal douche. If he/she wishes to be penetrated deeper, I would recommend an enema.
  • the anus is naturally designed to stay closed and eliminate stuff out, rather then open to let stuff in. Its holding design - three strong muscular sphincters - need to relax before being entered. This needs care, seduction and trust, otherwise they will inevitably close back up to their normal state.
  • though the vagina has no obvious sphincters to close herself, she too needs to be seduced with care, seduction and respect.
  • a G-spot is likely to want strong stimulation, once the arousal is high.
  • a P-spot rarely wants to be stimulated strongly.
  • the anus, on the other hand, male or female, when arousal is hot and going, may love to be taken hard. Just leave the P-spot alone!

 

 

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