Links & Resources


With this page I wish to contribute to the growing web of a sex-positive community. Many of these links will, of course... link to other links... and more links.

Before I begin, I want to thank George Loermans of Bright Eyes Design. I feel fortunate to work with him. If you like this site, checkout www.brighteyesdesign.nl to see the subtlety and European flavor of his work.

Links to the world of (alternative) sex-work

www.anniesprinkle.org Anyone who tastes the expanded view on sex, porn and sex-work these days, benefits from Annie Sprinkle’s, Pd.D., pioneering work and art. Her unique style, personal warmth and generosity never fail to touch me. Ah, and her humor, ofcourse.

www.benhaggard.com For the gay man who wants more than the same old, same old. For individuals and groups, Ben’s work is profound and moving.

www.bettydodson.com Betty talked about sex when everyone else still blushed at the topic. Or got mad. Or sighed in relief.
She’s known as the authority on Self-Loving with her book, ‘Sex for One,’ but can tell you a lot more than that.

www.carolqueen.com, Veteran activist, writer, speaker, and sex, gender and sex-work educator says, “I’ve had to struggle to find the place and permission to express my own sexuality and I am committed to facilitating others as they do the same.” Also check www.centerforsexandculture.org, for her newest project.

www.thesexacademy.com, Cora Emens founded The New Ancient Sex Academy in Amsterdam in 1991. Her beautiful site is rich andrevealing. (Also see the section ‘Sexual Healing.’)

Links to the world of 21st century sexploration and education

Training

www.bodyelectric.org The Body Electric School expanded the experience of ‘what sex can be’ for thousands of people over the last 20 years. Check out their workshops for women and men in numerous cities worldwide.

www.margotanand.com This site and www.spiritworkschurch.net provide inspiration for living daily life, including sex and intimacy on a spiritual basis. Margot Anand, has acted as a bridge between western and eastern wisdom traditions, uniting those into a ‘Western Tantra.’ Her book ‘The Art of Sexual Ecstasy’ is a classic by now.

www.sexologicalbodywork.com, leads you to the one and only collage-level state-certified training in erotic bodywork. This site also leads you to the Institute for Advanced Studies of Human Sexuality, offering Master’s or Doctorate in sexuality.

www.tao-yoga.com I can’t imagine a more experienced and skilled facilitator in the field of Taoist Yoga than Renu Li. She studied with Mantak and Maneewan Chia for many years and translated their books. Her women’s workshops combine the power of traditional Taoist techniques with western, feminine consciousness. This site also links to Taoist-yoga teachers around the world.

www.womensexualitycenter.com The Women’s Sexuality Center of Pamela Madison is devoted to the sexual empowerment and fulfillment of all women through education, healing and support.

Self-education

www.sexuality.org If anywhere, start your search in the land of sex and intimacy here! This site is created for sexual education and information. Events-calender, matchmaking, library, articles - from Tantra to SM and everything in between.

www.isismedia.org, Click here to find a drawing of the G-spot! Deborah Sundahl has studied, practiced and taught about the g-spot and female ejaculation for many years. Her results are now available in her book ‘Female ejaculation and the G-spot.’ This clear and practical book provides information about the g-spot, female ejaculation and women’s orgasm.

Joseph Kramer inspires people to new and deepened experiences of sexuality and erotic work through training, video’s and audio material. Click here www.eroticmassage.com to find material that ought to be viewed in each household: ‘Fire on the Mountain,’ ‘Fire in the Valley,’ ‘Evolutionary Masturbation,’ and much more. The potential to pamper and arouse your genitals will amaze you.

www.puckerup.com Groundbreaking, bush-wacking, educator/activist Tristan Taormino, editor of ‘On Our Backs,’ ‘Best Lesbian Erotica’ and ‘The ultimate guide to Anal Sex for Women,’ among others, shares a tremendous wealth of information and resources on this site for dykes of all trades - but not only.

www.cleispress.com Cleis Press publishes many books on sex and gender your mother wouldn’t dream about, including ‘Best Lesbian Erotica,’ published annually since 1998. Find this diverse snapshot of a dyke sex-culture at www.cleispress.com/Pages/bestlesbianseries.html.
I feel honored BLE ‘04 published my story ‘the Brothel.’ This book is nominated for the Lambda Awards 2004.

Links to the world of Sexual Healing

www.thesexacademy.com/articles/about/End-of-Me.htm,
Although not a sexual healing site, Cora provides important information about endometriosis, an illness that often goes unrecognized and effects women’s sexuality.

www.womenshealthspecialists.org From this organization comes the book ‘A New View of a Woman’s Body,’ an astounding revelation in drawings and photographs of women’s genitalia. If you want to know how big a clitoris really is, go get this book.

www.womensexualitycenter.com Please see above.

www.traumahealing.com Many kinds of trauma effect our sexual lives and liveliness as a whole. Peter Levine’s work approaches trauma through the body, rather then through talking and stories. Anyone who feels limited by past trauma events may want to checkout Levine’s scientific, inspired, human work. In the context of sexuality, ‘Sexual Healing’ (2CD’s) can provide guidance for adults who deal with past trauma. People with children, consider listening/viewing the audio/video tape ‘It won’t hurt forever’ -guiding children through trauma.’ This tape is for any type of trauma and can prevent pain and trouble later in your child’s future sex life.

Links to some voices which aren’t heard enough

People of Color

www.mamohanraj.com/why.html Mary Ann Mohanraj is a writer, born in Sri Lanka. This page explains why she writes erotica. Her site www.cleansheets.com is an online erotic magazine and leads to a zillion online erotic magazines.

www.rci.rutgers.edu/~divcoaff/director.html Cheryl Clarke is an African-American, lesbian, feminist poet, author and guest editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2003. (Cleis Press) This web site brings you to her and Rutgers University. It gives a wealth of information and ideas for action around diversity and dealing with cultural, racial and sexual differences.

www.youthresource.com is created by and for GLBTQ youth, ages 13-24. This resource provides support, community and peer-to-peer education for youth from numerous communities, including Black, Latina, Native American, and Asian.

Teenagers

www.scarleteen.com A fabulous, real, down-to-earth, well designed, well-written, sex education site for teenagers (and their educators) in all aspects of positive sexuality.

www.youthresource.com See above.

Gender fluidity

www.hanneblank.com Hanne Blank is a writer, editor, speaker, educator and advocate of fluid sexual identity. If not for this subject, check out her site for well done, smart links to sexuality, gender and fat.

www.nomylamm.com One of a kind, badass, fatass, jew dyke amputee performance artist, writer and activist. Her multimedia presentations cover topics of queer/fat/genderpolitics/identity/community.

Differently abled

www.disabledsex.org This site is a rich resource ‘for both the
dis-abled and abled communities for breaking down stereotypes, raising awareness and inspiring those with physical and mentalimpairments to understand and appreciate their sexuality.’

Fat

www.lustydevil.com The one and only Max Airborne is a Fat Culture Creator. Her music, writing, cartoons and other artistic expressions, like the magazine ‘Fat Girl,’ empower those who carry the hideous projections fat people are dealing with on a daily basis. Her work is eye-opening for the skinny people who have no clue about it.

SM and BDSM

www.soj.org The Society of Janus is a San Francisco based education and support group for adults who want to learn about BDSM through general and all inclusive instruction.

Links to the world of coaching

www.thebiggroove.com, Kira McGovern specializes in relationship’s coaching, a profound support for partners to draw on the best of what brings them together. Partners are guided into their relationships’ inner wisdom for clarity on what’s being asked of each of them in order to create more joy and intimacy.

www.parlancetraining.com I want to thank Isabel Parlett for her help in setting up my coaching practice. If you are in business offering something unusal , Isabel and her many years of coaching experience can help you find the most passionate and persuasive words to help your audience understand, and care, about what you offer.

Links to the world of shopping

In gratitude to Dell Williams, I want to mention Eve’s Garden in New York City, the world’s first sex store and mail-order company by and for women. Dell’s vision, pioneering and activism has been a crucial part of women re-claiming their right for sexual pleasure. After all,what would we do without the quality toys, books, video’s and workshops we take for granted these days? Click here, www.evesgarden.com, to shop, to consult your daily horoscope, and to find the latest happenings on www.spiritualityandsexuality.com, and more.